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GravitasMag.com | 65 women may promote narcissism amongst themselves, many fans at home watching simply are not following their lead. But not all castmates are getting sucked into a red sole of Louboutins, expensive meals and other lavish fixations. Former Real Housewives of New York City castmate turned entrepreneur and talk show host, Bethenny Frankell, used her platform on the superficial reality show to build her brand in a positive manner. "While the other housewives were worrying about wardrobe, make up, hair and shopping, I was building my business foundation," she writes in her 2011 novel, A Place of Yes. Narcissism makes appearances not only online and on our television screens, but in the workplace as well. Dealing with narcissistic people in the work place can be extremely difficult and stressful. While they are usually ambitious, they often are unable to properly deal with setbacks and criticism on the road to success making it hard for them to work with others, and for others to tolerate their behavior. Marketing specialist, Bailey Wells, recalls her interactions with narcissists in the work place, "I have come across narcissists in work settings. I find that their tendencies seriously hinder collaborative efforts from team members, as they are often not willing to coordinate different ideas in order to make something better and work for everyone involved." She also adds that it can affect others around them. "I know individuals who have felt poorly about their performance due to the fact their narcissistic colleagues simply take all the credit away from them." Mfuko also adds that in her experiences working with narcissists, they never lasted long with the company, in my experience, these people never lasted very long at the job they were in. My superiors and I would try to speak with them about it, and explain how their attitude negatively affects those around them, and even their ability to excel at work." She notes, "ey don't see any fault in what they do, so they continue to do it. is eventually led to an unpleasant end." Although narcissism will always exist in American society, there are ways women can begin to neutralize this trait before we become a narcissistic nation in total. Although it's tempting to pick up your smart phone and scroll through your social media feeds when you're bored, need a break from work or other daunting activities, limiting your time on social media gives you more time to interact with friends and family face- to-face. Instead of deciding which selfie to upload, crack open that new book you've been dying to read, or give an old friend a call instead of lurking her vacation photos. In your free time, volunteer with the elderly, the homeless or any other place you can find some sense of purpose. While it's so easy to get wrapped up in the world of reality TV, social media, selfies and self-promotion, don't forget that humility is a trait that will always be celebrated and is extremely attractive. If you know a friend who is in need of an ego boost, empower her and encourage her to be her best self again. As women, once we learn to genuinely love ourselves, our confidence shines through, and we are able to capture everyone's attention without having to say a single word. # NAR C I S S I S T I'm going to take some [pictures] super racy, I mean, every girl takes pictures of their ass in the mirror ... I might share some of them. " " Source: Instagram

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